Wednesday, November 16, 2011


"Honoring yourself is about being true to yourself.  Being true to yourself is listening to your inner voice, trusting it and acting on it.  Listening is easy because it never goes away.  Trusting it can be a challenge.

If you have a problem trusting other people, you may want to take a look at yourself.  Ask yourself if you trust yourself.  Trusting yourself is about doing what you need to do for you to be "right" with yourself.  Being right with yourself is honoring your feelings.

Once you listen and trust your inner voice, you must act on it.  If you feel upset about something that someone said or did, maybe you need to speak up about it. If someone degraded or hurt you, honoring yourself would be to correct the situation.  If you are feeling guilt because you hurt someone, correct it.  Or, as Bernie at Millennium 3 would say, "Clean it up."

Confronting the person or the situation can be uncomortable, but so can living with the guilt, resentment or anger.  Setting it right within you may not involve confronting a person, it may involve writing a letter or journaling...whatever it is, be true to you and your feelings.   Your feelings are important, too.

Do what you can in a healthy way to make peace with yourself and/or another person. 
Once you do that, you can let it go.
Letting it go sets you free.

Value yourself.  Love yourself.  Forgive others.  Forgive yourself.  Be at peace with yourself.
Do these things and you will have real honor.

--from my book "Real Health Real Life."