"Real love starts with you. When you truly love yourself, you''ll be ready to be in a real love relationship. Loving yourself is key, though getting there can be a challenge. Loving yourself is about treating yourself like you would your best friend. It's about taking care of your body, mind and spirit. This can include stimulating your mind with positive thoughts, exercising your body, feeding it healthy, nourishing foods, and listening to your soul. Exercising your mind...then giving it a rest...exercising your body...then giving it a rest...listening, trusting, and acting on your soul...
Real love is also about being comfortable in your own skin. Being able to enjoy your own company is a sign that someone else will also enjoy it. Spending time with others is healthy, but so is spending time with yourself.
Real love in a relationship is loving, giving, receiving, understanding, listening, being true to yourself and your partner, honoring your feelings and your partner's. Real love lifts you up, supports you, encourages you and picks you up when you fall.
Real love is about committment, trust, communication, honesty and respect. You must have all of these within you in order to give them to your partner. This means you must be committed to yourself, communicate your true feelings, be honest with yourself, and respect yourself. Once you develop these qualities within yourself, you may receive and enjoy the same qualities from someone else.
If you are not there yet, remember that we are all growing, every day. Don't be hard on yourself, but do be open to looking at yourself and what you can enhance inside. The love within you is already there. There may need to be a need to heal the self-doubt, insecurities, and/or emotional wounds. Once these have been healed, you'll be on your way to real love."
--from my book "Real Health, Real Life."