It is not about being perfect. The world tends to promote perfectionism as having the perfect body, eating the perfect foods, and never going off course but staying on track and living the perfect life at all times.
Well, our bodies do not always look perfect, and we do not all eat perfectly at all times. And we don’t all have the perfect life at all times.
Real health is not about eating the perfect number of calories every day to maintain your perfect muscle definition and perfect body. It’s not about exercising every day for 45.2 minutes to maintain that perfect body.
Real health involves getting off track and sometimes not exercising because you overslept and didn’t have time in the morning before work, or you chose not to exercise due to the depression you’ve been in since your mother died. Real health is about sometimes eating junk food because life got off track. Maybe you lost your job, lost someone you loved, or got divorced.
Real health takes into consideration that you may not feel like getting up and moving your body. Some days, you may be lucky just to get your body from the bed to the shower or make yourself go to work.
Real health is about fitness, nutrition, and wellness, but it is also about life experiences, our feelings, and how we deal with them. The most important aspect of real health is not how perfectly we stay on track, but that we get back on track. That is what we need to place importance on, not judging ourselves for falling off track, but congratulating ourselves for getting back on track.
Besides, who do you respect more—a woman whose body is genetically blessed and does nothing to maintain her genetically perfect body? Or the woman who is not genetically blessed, but keeps exercising and eating healthy—even if she falls off track 102 times, but still pulls herself up and gets back on track?
Do you respect the man who has the perfect job, perfect car, and trophy wife, who is trying to make a statement to the world that he indeed is perfect, only to find that behind the scenes, he lied and cheated to get that perfect job, does not own his car, and because of his lies to himself and others, his trophy wife actually cannot stand him? Or do you respect the man who lives a life he loves because he’s passionate about it, respects himself and others, and most of all, honors his soul?
I know who I respect more.
Now let me be clear. I am grateful for the genetically perfect people here on earth. They give us all an image to aspire to, to get in shape and to improve ourselves. I just hope we do it in a healthful way, and for the right reasons. Not for egoism, impressing others, or to get attention or love from others.
What it comes down to is acceptance: acceptance of our bodies, ourselves, and who we are. We are all unique individuals. Real life is about acknowledging that: accepting that we are all special in our own way. Developing our inner beauty is more important than developing our outer beauty.
Ha! Good luck with that in this society, right?
I know. I tried to be “Little Miss Perfect” for many years. The message regarding perfection was delivered when I was a young girl, it grew in adolescence, and finally came to a head in adulthood. First it was about getting braces, then contact lenses, and all the “right” clothes. Later in life, it was the “right” husband, big house, nice car, and finally, a breast augmentation. All of this because I wanted to be perfect. Growing up, I received the message from home and people in society that “if you are perfect, you will be loved.”
So I did whatever I could within my power to look perfect: my hair, makeup, body, clothes, and so on. The list goes on and on…and then you want to puke.
The funny thing is, back then I didn’t think anything of it. I was just doing what I felt I was supposed to do to be accepted and to be loved. Now, looking back, I realize it is about me accepting myself and me loving myself, not trying to get acceptance and love from others.
Real health starts with YOU accepting you and loving you.
You loving yourself. Not through perfectionism, fake-ism, and the facade of how perfect we all want to be, but realistic health and the creation of a realistic life.
I am not talking about surgery. I tried that route. It changes the outside of you but does not enhance your inner beauty. After many years of physical, emotional, and spiritual detox, I can tell you it is a much better investment to enhance your inner beauty. The external beauty fades, but the inner beauty shines on. Yes, looking and feeling good physically feels great, but don’t stop there. Life gets better when you take on beauty depth: your inner beauty. It is about loving your body, yourself, and your soul.
I write this to you through realness, honesty, and truth. I hope you take something from this book that in some way benefits you, your life, your overall wellness, and realness. (from the book "Real Health Real Life")
Wellness and Realness,
Jillian Lambert, M.S.
Author of "Real Health Real Life"
Owner of Real Life Wellness Ranch
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