REAL PAIN: We get upset when people say or do things that are hurtful. People who are in pain lash out at others. It's as if they are a wounded animal. The animal does not know you are trying to help it, so it lashes out or bites you. When someone is in pain, they don't care about anyone else's pain except their own. They are dealing with their own painful situation and are usually unaware of the pain they inflict on others.